Thursday, April 8, 2010

Seeking Balance in Blogging

I can't believe it's been nearly two weeks since I've had time to create a post for my blog! 

It's just been so crazy around here ~ overwhelmingly crazy ~ and I've been beating myself up for not keeping up with my posting.  I was kinda on a roll for a few weeks there, getting into a blog groove...and then, WHAM!!!  It all blew up on me....well, sorta.  Let me explain.

I had to go back to work.  No, wait...let me rephrase that:  I got to go back to work.  Because I was fortunate enough to find a job within a couple of weeks after I started searching.  And, believe me, this was a blessing because the money has been going out-out-out, with none coming in-in-in.  And our resources are definitely finite!

When I started blogging about six months ago, I was working part-time.  Then, at the end of January, I became unemployed when we relocated to Abilene.  My full-time job became rehab-ing this house with Eddie.  (And trust me, that is more than 40 hours a week of work, no matter how you slice it!)

Last week, knowing that I would be starting the new job this week, Mom and I worked frantically together every day, mostly in the kitchen/dining area, trying to get as much work done as possible.  And we accomplished alot!

Did we get finished?   NO...a big, resounding NO.  And I was terribly disappointed to head out to the new job on Monday morning, knowing that work was left undone.  In fact, even with Eddie working in there on his days off this week, we are not where I had hoped to be at the end of last week. 

And since I am afflicted with a form of "perfection disorder", I have in no way felt the desire to grab my camera and document the shortcomings of our efforts.  When I go out there, browsing around BlogWorld, it seems that everyone else is documenting "perfection" in their world.  I see lots of great photos of beautiful homes, completed projects, all nice and tidily wrapped up.  Normally, they inspire me....but, in my current circumstances, they make me acutely aware of my "shortcomings". 

Combine this feeling of failure on the "home front" with the exhausting effect of returning to work in a fast-paced new job, well, you start to get the picture....blogging has been the last thing on my mind. 

But, this evening I had an "Ah-Hah Moment"! 

It doesn't matter if I have finished one or many projects around the house....

or that I haven't documented our progress (or lack thereof) in photos....

or that I don't have a perfect blog post ready every other day....

That's just not what it's all about.  At least, not for me.

Blogging is about sharing my thoughts in written form.  It's a way of communicating my feelings about what I value in Life.  That's what it is about. 

What it is not about is trying to look like or emulate other blogs....or keeping up with other blogger's styles and posting abilities....or competing to gain followers. 

So, there you have it.  I am posting this without any photos.  (But, now that I've re-thought the whole purpose of blogging, maybe I won't be so hesitant to pick up my camera and document an unifinished project.)  I'm still finding "my blog voice", making lots of missteps and corrections along the way. 

Above all, I'm learning more about myself through this adventure in blogging.  That is the rewarding part...and the reason I don't want to give it up, even though I feel stretched pretty thin some days. 

So, bear with me....and hang with I strive find the perfect balance here on The Porch!



  1. Jane I have missed you! Sounds like you have been very very busy. This post is a good post because you are telling me how you are feeling at the moment and that is 'real'. You will get your kitchen finished and it will be worth it and I will enjoy the 'in betweens' as much as the finished results of any projects. Your blog is perfect!!! Look forward to reading more((((hugs))))xxxx

  2. Jane, I love reading your blog and keeping up with you and all your adventures. I'm glad you had the light-bulb moment.....I don't want to read about someone's perfect life because 1) MINE isn't and 2) it's not real. I have a feeling these other bloggers don't have the perfect life either - they just edit what they choose to share - and that "ain't the real deal", yours is. Keep up the honesty Jane, we all love it!! And you!! :-) Looking forward to seeing you & Eddie in a few weeks!!

  3. Amen!! It is all about what makes you happy and works for you. People (like me) want to meet real people who want to share the good, bad, and ugly. It will all come together and work beautifully when it is time. Please, there is no perfection on my blog. Check out the post on our last night in Germany when I bit my own child! I am not a perfect mother and I do the best I can. I started my blog as more of a journal for Jemma to have one day. I am so NOT perfect, but I try to be the best that I can and that is what matters most. You give your all to what is important and as a fellow blogger, I appreciate it!

    Good luck on your new job!!!!!

  4. Amen, sista! As a working mom of three busy bees, I want to blog whenever is the whenever possible that sometimes gets in the way. Do it when you can. We will still be here waiting.

  5. Thanks to all of you great ladies who have stopped by and given me such wonderful words of encouragement! I definitely feel like I have taken the turn at the fork in the road to balancing Life! It's all about prioritizing and BEING REAL. It's good know that someone out there GETS IT!!!

    Big HUGS to all of you!!!


  6. I have to say, Jane, that this is a great post :) I do think you are right...that many bloggers seem to post only the great things in their lives and post only their perfect pictures. I do think that, for a few of them at least, that it's a way for them to appreciate the good things even when things aren't going perfectly well in their lives. I imagine, though, that for some it is a way of putting on a fake front. Maybe they want others to see them as perfect...and that is sad. I hope you continue to post what is REAL and TRUE in your life, because no matter how you look at are blessed :)

  7. Jane congratulations on your new job. I hope it is a wonderful situation for you. You've made some very good points about blogging in this post, and the funny thing is, I was just thinking similar thoughts earlier this week. ♥

  8. Super post Jane, your message comes through vividly, no photos required! Know that I come to your porch because I want to visit and connect with YOU as one imperfect blogger to another. Anna Quindlen is quoted as having said "The thing that is really hard and really amazing is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. I love that! Congratulations on landing the job and good luck with everything!


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